Here is something everyone should have in their communication toolkit: “35 Phrases To Set Boundaries Firmly and Fairly”. This article provides practical phrases and advice on how to assertively set boundaries without causing unnecessary conflict. These phrases work in a wide range of scenarios, from dealing with children and family to workplace dynamics. Here are a few examples: 

• "I'm not available." - Helps establish off-hours and personal time boundaries.

• "I need you to help me." - Encourages teamwork and shared responsibility.

• "I don't agree." - Clearly states disagreement while remaining open to finding a mutual solution.

• "I understand you need my help, but I cannot work on this right now." - Balances empathy with personal limits.

• "I prefer not to discuss this topic with you. It makes me feel uncomfortable." - Protects emotional well-being by avoiding triggering subjects.

Note: Both of my recommendations this week were discovered in Matt Rutherford’s newsletter, 👓 Stuff—a weekly email crammed full of tips for a better life. If you love Recomendo, I highly recommend subscribing to Matt’s newsletter. — CD 

The only active ingredient in this bottle of Mighty Mint spider repellent spray is peppermint oil. I spray it around the windows on the outside of our house, outdoor furniture, and potted plants, and it keeps them from building webs. The label says for best results use twice a week, but in my experience, once every couple of weeks seems to be frequent enough. — MF

If I had to re-assemble my workshop from scratch, one of the first tools I would buy would be a cordless angle grinder. I would not have guessed that a decade ago, but I use mine all the time now.  I’ve found that an angle grinder is the perfect tool for cutting through thick or thin metal. I can cut rebar, metal sheeting, chicken wire, hardware mesh, rusty nails, old hinges, stripped screw heads, welded parts, etc. It is the cheapest way cut metal. The cordless part (a little more expensive) makes it so easy to grab and go. Because they grind with grit instead of cutting with teeth, they aren’t as scary as a saw, too. You can find them for all battery types; mine is a Dewalt DCG 412. — KK

I recently came across a clever idea in an email I received. At the bottom of the email, there was a link labeled "About me." I clicked on it and was taken to the results of a Perplexity search about the sender. It was an ingenious way to provide a snapshot of who they are, and I found it so useful and creative that I decided to steal the idea myself. — MF

I love watching artists work in their studios. I really delight in seeing how they make their art, what tools and techniques they use, and their material approach to creation. Getting access to a studio is rare, but very easy to do via two YouTube channels. Art21 is a multi-season PBS show, available on YT, that features a contemporary American artist at work in their workshop or studio. Some artists even reveal their process in detail, which is  a plus. The other venue is Craft in America, another PBS show, which lets you watch how crafts people manifest their exquisite artifacts, such as a chair from a log, or a knitted coral reef. I am constantly inspired to make my own art after watching others create art from such raw ingredients. — KK

I use Midjourney to create AI illustrations of dream imagery, and to improve my skills in writing AI image prompts, I've been playing a Google Arts & Culture game called "Say What You See." The gist of the game is to describe what you see and aim for at least a 50% match—or higher—to the original prompt. Warning: It can get very frustrating past level three. Thankfully, if you want to come back to it, you can skip the easier levels anytime. — CD

Over the weekend, my daughter and I played an unusual video game called Papers, Please. In this single-player game (which came out in 2013), you work as a border checkpoint inspector for Arstotzka, a fictional country resembling a 1980s Soviet state. Your job is to examine the documents of people attempting to enter the country and decide whether to grant them entry. The game presents moral dilemmas as your daily pay is usually insufficient to cover rent, food, and heat. Your family constantly faces the risk of starvation and illness. This raises the question: Should you start accepting bribes and other dubious offers from spies and smugglers to make ends meet? Despite its intentionally crude graphics, reminiscent of 1980s video games, I found myself completely engrossed in the gameplay. — MF

The arrival of reliable cheap fusion energy on Earth would be a revolution nearly as important as AI. Fusion is a synthetic sun, with relatively benign byproducts. For 70 years, experts have predicted it to be “20 years away;”  It is still 20 years away. This excellent summary of the state of the art in fusion energy explains why progress has been so slow and why it may speed up now. Or not! Easy to read and smartly informative, Will We Ever Get Fusion Power is the best thing I’ve read on fusion, a brief and succinct article, highly recommended. — KK

Here's a fun new way to explore and pick out colors. The Magic Color Picker converts your text descriptions into precise color codes. For example, here is the color generated for “sunny day but overcast”. — CD

I like this hi-tech mechanical pencil from Japan because it sharpens itself so that it produces a very consistent line, no matter how long you use it. The Uni Kurutoga Advance ($9) contains a novel mechanism that rotates the pencil lead each time it touches the paper, so that it wears evenly and maintains a uniform point. So clever! It currently is only available for very fine 0.5mm lead. — KK

This is a useful guide to emailing like a “boss” that I found on Reddit. It lists the most positive and effective way to rewrite your messages based on the intention. Here are some examples I want to adopt: If your intention is to say “You’re welcome,” instead of saying “No problem/No worries” say, “Always happy to help.” If you want to know if the recipient understands something, instead of asking “Does that make sense?” say “Let me know if you have any questions.” When you want to convey that you know what your doing, instead of saying “I think maybe we should …” say “It would be best if we …”. — CD 

City Walks is a website of videos taken by people walking along the sidewalks of cities from around the world. Just click on a city from the list and the video starts playing. Most cities have more than one video, so you can click the city name to load a new one. Make sure to click the sound toggle on, too. I found the video of a busy open-air market street in Rawalpindi, Pakistan to be especially interesting. — MF

Recomendo is just one of several newsletters we publish. This week, I want to highlight Book Freak. With over 12,000 subscribers, each issue offers short pieces of advice distilled from a wide range of books, including both popular and obscure fiction and non-fiction. The goal is to share practical wisdom and insights in an easy-to-digest format that you can apply to your daily life. 

Here’s an example from BJ Fogg’s book, Tiny Habits, from issue 61:

 Change your behavior with this 3-step plan

“In order to design successful habits and change your behaviors, you should do three things. Stop judging yourself. Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors. Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward.”

Before making a decision, ask yourself these two questions

“Will it help you do what you already want to do? Will it help you feel successful? The answers to those questions is freeing because if the change program doesn't satisfy these two requirements, it's not worth your time. ”

For more advice from useful books, subscribe to Book Freak. — MF

I recently stumbled across an interactive wheel designed to help explore the complexities of human emotions. This wheel displays eight basic emotions and illustrates how they relate to each other, intensify, and combine to form more complex feelings. Although I don't know much about the organization behind it, Six Seconds is a non-profit organization whose mission is to increase the world’s emotional intelligence. What I found most fascinating and useful is learning the typical sensations that one feels in the body based on the emotion, because that is how I tend to recognize an emotion before naming it. It's a great tool for anyone looking to enhance their emotional literacy or better understand the nuances of their own feelings. — CD

When you are entering text on an iPhone and many Android phones, you can turn the space bar on the keyboard into a trackpad. While pressing down the space bar, slide the cursor to exactly where you want it on the screen. Much more accurate than tapping. — KK

To manage pet hair shedding, we recently upgraded from our Furminator to the Maxpower Planet Pet Grooming Brush. I'm amazed by how well it works and how much hair it removes from our dog. We also use it on our outdoor cat, who always has matted knots and debris in her long-hair coat. Both pets are now better groomed, and I'm not constantly vacuuming pet hair from my office carpet. — CD 

Compassion-Focused Therapy helps manage your threat system and activate your safeness system during stressful interactions with other people. The four main points are recognizing triggers, practicing mindfulness, using soothing techniques like rhythm breathing, and responding with compassion. For instance, when provoked, pause, breathe deeply, and express your feelings calmly to avoid escalating conflict. For more, read "How to take the high road" at Psyche. A shorter version: “Be polite to rude strangers – it’s oddly thrilling.” — MF

Writer Sam Anderson travels to distant places in order to encounter his favorite animals eye to eye. He made a highly entertaining podcast series, called Animal, about these encounters for the New York Times. The podcasts are super great, creatively edited.  A large part of their appeal is their unusual style of reporting. Sam is warmly idiosyncratic and the animals are mirrors to his own internal life. I’ve not heard any other podcasts like it. My favorite in the series is Puffins. — KK

If you need to renew your US passport there is a pilot program to renew it online, but you’ll need 8 weeks to process it. Mailing it in is currently faster. But if you are not comfortable mailing your passport, consider this official state department beta program Renewal Online, which only accepts a limited number of applicants per day. (Thanks for the tip from our sister newsletter, Nomadico – written for people who work while they travel.) — KK

During a recent move, our movers suggested replacing our bulky plastic hangers with super-thin, non-slip velvet hangers — and they were right. They maximized my closet space while keeping clothes from slipping off. The 360-degree swivel hook makes it easy to adjust items so that they all face the same way. At around 50 cents per hanger for a pack of 30, they're an affordable way to instantly declutter your closet and give it a more uniform, boutique-like appearance. Best of all, no more clothes on the floor! Here's a photo of my closet with the hangers. — MF